Violence over Sex

I was watching tv, killing time this morning before I had to go to work and came across an episode of Step by Step. I never watched the show but it appeared like most other sitcoms, nuclear family, etc. The intention of this particular episode was to show the comedic implications associated with explaining sex to a little girl.
Well after she had learned from her parents she told others of course. The boy she played with was told by his parents after they learned what the girl was spouting out that he wasn't allowed around her anymore. The parents of the girl decided to have a meeting with the boy's parents. After a small argument they allowed the children to play together again, the girl told the boy to come over to her house so they could watch the nature channel. The boy's parents were naturally alarmed until the girl's explained that it was a violent week so he was 'safe'.
Their was the automated laughter in the background and the show carried on. Whether the laughter was over the lack of sex or the approval of violence over sex doesn't matter to me. I'm not on a crusade against Step by Step. But that sense of mind is the tone of America.
For some reason, we will send our children to the most violent and blood thirsty movies before we send them to one with nudity. I tend to think it is our strong Puritan roots in the American psyche. Abstaining from any kind of pleasurable activity while actively pursuing violent behavior. Maybe its out of fear. Sex brings on a lot of connotations, growing up and leaving the next for one.
I watch just as many violent movies and play just as many violent games as the next person so neither am I on a crusade against that. From my standpoint, parental unwillingness to discuss such matters for whatever reason for both issues needs to be addressed. I read last semester about Japanese child bearing. While we tell a child who say throws a ball at a wall to stop because its rude or bad for the wall; the Japanese associate feelings with the ball: how bad it must feel. It apparently is capable of instilling compassion in the child. Maybe we need a similar kind of compassion. Partake in all the fake violence you like but know the difference. I guess the next step would be watch all the porn you want but know the difference?
The fact is though, I don't care. I just want it to stop. Discussing why man can be so cruel seems like a distressing topic to a parent, not why man can love so much.